Tool · 7 min

Marriage Fit Check

Twelve lines about the last month: repair, money, and closeness. You get the weakest room, a script, and a seven-day plan.

Built on three domains marital research keeps finding: how you repair after a fight, how you talk about money, and whether you still turn toward small bids for closeness. It is a snapshot of last month, not a destiny score and not a copied clinic test.

Answer for the last month only, not the wedding year. Almost always is 5. Never is 1. This is a snapshot of three rooms — repair, money, closeness — not a destiny score.

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After a sharp comment last month, we were back in the same room within a day.

Repair

When a talk got loud, one of us named a clock time and actually came back.

Repair

An apology happened without a “but” and without a history lesson.

Repair

In a hard talk, we named a behavior a camera could have recorded — not a soul.

Repair

We sat with a real number in front of us: a bill, a balance, or a payday.

Money

Both of us could name this month’s number — rent, food, the card, or the fear.

Money

A surprise bill stayed a number. It did not become a trial of who is the careful one.

Money

The household books are not a secret one person carries alone.

Money

Someone made a small bid — a joke, a touch, a “look at this” — and the other turned toward it.

Closeness

Affection was not used as a prize or a punishment.

Closeness

We kept one shared ritual that is not a chore: a walk, tea, or ten minutes on the same sofa.

Closeness

On an ordinary Thursday this month, I would still choose this person.

Closeness